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Relationships: What is the Glue that Holds People Together, For Better and for Worse?

This talk has been approved by New York State for 2 hours of Continuing Education Credit for LMSWs & LCSWs. Lecture will led by Valerie Frankfeldt, PhD, LCSW.

As therapists we sometimes have to scratch our heads watching couples or hearing about individuals in relationships compulsively hurting, or even destroying, each other. We wonder, “This is not a match made in heaven; why stay together?” This workshop answers that question, and provides some tools for working with these problems.

Committed relationships involve a developmental process that recapitulates in an adult form the developmental process of individuals. Stress between partners is a recapitulation of the developmental arrests of each partner. The developmental arrest in each partner is similar or identical to that in the others. Adaptations are complementary. Stress between partners is an externalization of internal stress and conflict in each partner, played out in the interpersonal arena of the relationship.

This will be a didactic and experiential presentation, with participants doing a written exercise to identify those traits, the life enhancing ones and repetitive ones, that “hook” us in our own relationships. For therapists it is also of interest to use the exercise to identify how certain patient traits push our buttons, both positively and negatively.
Valerie Frankfeldt, LCSW, PhD, is a faculty member, training analyst and supervisor, and Chair of the Training Committee at PPSC. Dr. Frankfeldt is a graduate of the Center for Modern Psychoanalytic Studies, and is a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist. In spite of the theory , she can still be found scratching her head in wonder at how people find and keep each other.

Valerie Frankfeldt, PhD, LCSW will lead the lecture.